WHO AM I?
I am a mom and a surgeon who specializes in plastic and reconstructive surgery of the eyelids. I live in Westchester County, New York with my husband and daughter. My husband is also a physician and we met during my intern year after I finished medical school. Because of our medical training, we had to survive three years of long-distance dating and one year of long-distance marriage, but all of that pales in comparison to our biggest challenge yet – parenting.
WHY OPERATING MOTHERHOOD?
After finishing my fellowship training in ophthalmic plastic and reconstructive surgery at Johns Hopkins Wilmer Eye Institute, my husband and I decided to take attending positions in New York. I was very conflicted about my first job, and I should have trusted my gut feelings from the beginning, as it became apparent almost immediately after starting that the practice had troubling ethics and I had to leave. Soon afterwards, I joined the faculty at Yale University to serve as Director of Oculoplastics, during which time I gave birth to our daughter. Commuting to New Haven from Westchester was always a challenge, but became even tougher once I began juggling motherhood with my high-powered career. After a little over two years at Yale, I made the decision to start my own practice in Westchester, New York and Greenwich, Connecticut.
I was motivated to start this blog for several reasons. First, during medical training, we do not receive much structured information or advice about the best way to find job positions, and it is so important in order to empower young physicians to advocate for themselves and find the jobs they deserve after years of sacrifice, debt and hard work. Second, going through pregnancy and the birth of my daughter and establishing a new identity as a mother presented challenges I could never have conceptualized, and based on my experiences, I strongly feel that the more we discuss these challenges honestly and openly, the more people will feel that parenting is relatable and survivable. Finally, there has been a trend with regards to female entrepreneurship and I am excited to hop on board, but there is such a paucity of information particularly in the medical field regarding where to start, and knowledge is power. I have been fortunate enough to have found many amazing female mentors who paved the way, but I believe that all young women considering making the leap should have a place to ask questions and find information without judgment or discouragement.